The Art of the Handshake

​During the height of COVID-19, handshakes disappeared almost overnight. But now, they're back—especially in business settings. Whether you're at a networking event, meeting a client, or interviewing for a job, a proper handshake sets the tone for professionalism and confidence.

​Let's break down the essentials of a great handshake so you can feel comfortable and assured every time.

​Always Stand Up to Shake Hands
Whenever possible, stand up when shaking someone's hand. This small but powerful gesture conveys respect and engagement. If standing isn't physically possible, you can acknowledge the handshake with a friendly nod and verbal greeting.

The Perfect Handshake Technique
Your handshake should be firm but not overpowering. Here's how to execute it properly:

• Extend your right hand with your palm facing slightly inward.
• Aim for the "web" of your hand (the area between your thumb and index finger) to meet the other person's web. This ensures full contact.
• Grip firmly—but not too tight or too limp. Think of it as a confident grasp, not a bone-crushing squeeze or a weak touch.
• Maintain eye contact and smile to project warmth and confidence.

Getting the Grip Just Right
A handshake should feel natural, not forced. If you're unsure whether yours is too firm or too weak, practice with a friend or colleague. Ask for honest feedback and adjust accordingly.

How Many Pumps?
Handshakes vary slightly depending on the situation:

• Business Setting: Two pumps are standard—up and down twice, then release.
• Social Setting: Three pumps are more common in friendly, non-business environments.

Avoid excessive shaking, which can feel awkward or overwhelming.

When to Initiate a Handshake
In business, the person of seniority—such as the employer or senior executive—typically initiates the handshake. However, if you're meeting someone and the moment feels appropriate, extending your hand first is perfectly fine.

A Few Handshake Don'ts

• Avoid the "limp fish" handshake. A weak grip can give the impression of insecurity or lack of enthusiasm.
• Don't overdo the "death grip." Crushing someone's hand can make you seem overly aggressive. It also has the potential to cause pain in the other person's hand, especially if they are elderly or have arthritis in their hands.
• Skip the "linger." Holding on too long can make the other person uncomfortable.

Final Thoughts
Your handshake is often the first impression you make—so make it count! By standing up, using the proper grip, and shaking with confidence, you'll leave a lasting, positive impact in both professional and social settings.
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Do you feel confident in your handshake? If not, grab a friend and start practicing today!